Monika Nowak - Toporowicz CTIO Virgin Media Ireland wywiad Kornblit Talks
Kornblit Talks
Anti-Perfectionist? That’s Me
I love my work and have no problem taking it home with me. I love my children and have no problem bringing them to work. Some may say that I’m that imperfect mother who preferred to return to work rather than stay at home with her kids. But I need to feel good about myself for others to feel comfortable around me. No one will follow a leader who feels bad about themselves - emphasizes Monika Nowak - Toporowicz, CTIO Virgin Media Ireland.

In the interview for Kornblit Talks, she shares reflections on the benefits of letting go and building leadership in a male-dominated industry. She emphasizes the following:

I don’t get discouraged when something doesn’t turn out perfectly. Even if it doesn’t work out twice in a row. My approach combines strong goal orientation with a lack of pressure for perfectionism. I think women, in particular, have a tendency to try to be perfect in every role – as mothers, employees, partners. And that really holds them back. Because you can’t be perfect at everything.

A sense of security at home allows me to grow externally. For me, these two things are completely connected. I don’t separate my life into work and home parts. I like this holistic approach, but I’m not saying it’s the only right way. It works for me. When I have a sick child, I go home. And my employer has to understand that. Because I’m a mom and I need to be at home. But when I have something to do at work, my children also have to wait. We’ve built a framework in which we function, with clearly defined boundaries – at home and at work.

What helped me the most was this combination: support from other women and challenges from men. From both relationships, I wanted to take the positives that would help me move forward. You can’t count on someone to notice you just because you’re talented and work well, and then pull you out of the shadows. There are a dozen others like you, but they manage to push through and show themselves. So, the fact that I’m a different gender gives me an advantage right away – I get noticed. I always wear heels, colorful glasses. I’m a woman, and I plan to use that to my advantage my whole life.

Full version of the interview available in Polish.